Never blv what u hear or see..

the above phrase sounds quite familiar, hai na.. but still how many of us actually implement it in daily life.. I’ve heard it so many times n our bollywood directors too r not far behind showing many live egs of this phrase, when they wanna plot (and actually plot) a scene where vamps or villains play their role of creating misunderstandings between the actors-actresses.. n hey,tho these k-serials r really killing or madnening but even then u can learn at least one thing from there, its really very easy for "misunderstanding" to crop up in a very good relationship... note my friends," a VERY good relationship".. seriously misunderstandings don’t crop up between 2 people who have just normal relationships, like casual friends.. Have u fought with a classmate who is just ur "hi-hello" friend or one who is ur very close friend?? But why yaar, why misunderstandings arise??

sometimes i feel that its coz the relationship has not matured enuf or the people are simply too silly that they believe what the third person tells them without actually confirming it, either thru other reliable source or by directly asking ur frnd, the person involved.. but other times, when i'm analyzing it more deeply, I feel that its because the two people start expecting so much from each other, when they start doing so much for the other person without making the other person realize this and when they start taking each other for granted.. a stage arises wen neither of two is ready to hear "no" from the other person, wat ever the situation may be.. wen they start living "two lives" in the sense that they grab the other person's freedom of action n thought, they start treating "second life" as their own and expect it be flexible according to their own convenience.. wen they somehow forget to respect the other person's decisions n his/her style n behavior... the root cause thus becomes the minimized tolerance which one person has with the other due to "virtual merging of two lives".. yeah i know its getting more n more complex, in fact the more i think, the more i get confused and finally a stage arrives when i'm no more in a state to understand what i'm thinking, i’m not able to get the point my 'one half mind' is trying to tell my 'other half mind' and the two start conflicting so badly that finally they both agree to one thing.. "life is best the way its going, all this is a part a parcel of life.. if u dont have misunderstandings and if u don’t fight with ur close friends or near and dear ones, then either that relationship is very close to losing the meaning(u may read it as 'reason') of its existence or u r never gonna get closer.. but one thing should b kept in mind by both ppl involved in any relationship, either b cool enuf that u forget the stuff which was causing fight altogether and not start accumulating it inside u (it really will erupt like a volcano one day and will end everything if u show 'so called patience' this way) or if u r not cool, then at least believe in clearing out the matters ny discussing with each other till a point arrives wen both really agree that there is no more misunderstanding.." believe me people, if u r not cool and if u r not the one who doesn’t ever show the interest in clearing out matters immediately for one reason or other, u'll find that u lose frnds n relationships more quickly than u make the new one, later in ur life if not today...

PS: hey ppl,i'm extrmely sorry that i posted this post inspite of my promise of posting "introduction to spectrum", the much awaited post, but seriously my next post wud be that only and this time,without a long gap of time!! i had to post this today to lighten my heart :P;)